Decide, Respond: Two very important words. I read somewhere that we should seek to "mine the gap". The gap we are talking about here is the gap between the stimulus and the response, more specifically, an event, and our response to that event as it relates to our confidence. We spend a great deal of time training this with many physical attacks. We look at it over and over, from different angles, Read More
Take a few minuptes today to identify your triggers. What is a trigger? A trigger is a stimulus, or an event that causes a behavior. For our purposes we will focus on those situations that don't give us a confident feeling. We talked yesterday about defining our moments in life. We give attention to the moments where our lives are defined, won, and lost. Most of my focus Read More
For confidence to be true and tested, we have to identify the moments that we need it most, then practice and learn. I consider myself a very confident person. I can speak to crowds, I deal with some prickly situations professionally as an aviator, and I have accomplished just about everything I have set out to do. Yet the life of my dreams is not yet a reality, and Read More
A WORTHY GOAL I spent a few weeks before the holidays training and coaching a young man who lives in my community. His mother found me via a google search, and contacted me regarding some bullying that he was experiencing at school. After some phone interviewing, we agreed to meet and discuss how I might be able to help her son. A journey into the world of bullied kids ensued, and Read More
Present Solutions Come Up Short Bullying has taken on a huge presence in today's media. Dr. Phil, Oprah, Evening News, and Cable News providers have pretty well saturated the airways with information and stories of young people who are enduring some extreme bullying situations. I actually like the majority of the work that is being done for our kids by these journalists and entertainers. The one thing I cannot get past though Read More
Ever notice that your attitude is often times reflected back at you by those around you, or by the people you make a first impression with? What can you stand to gain or lose because of your attitude? It's funny how a little thing, like a personal battle in your head, or a preconceived notion of how someone else will behave might show up in your attitude towards them. Read More
Confidence is key to performance. My last post outlined the affects of confidence on our mental performance given many situations. The lack of confidence given a scenario can increase emotional turmoil, thus taking up valuable mental resources we would otherwise be using to perform in that situation. Today I will discuss some factors that make up our confidence. As I mentioned in part 1 of this series, the beginnings of how Read More