FOCUS: The first victim of the bully.

What You Put Your Mind On, You Become...

So, where is your child's focus when he or she is worried about a bully at school?  Well, it certainly isn't on school.  Our brains make sure of that using the old mechanism of FEAR.  If our kids are focused on getting beaten up or made fun of, guess what they become?  You guessed it, and it certainly isn't better. 

What then, can

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Fear is not weakness: Rob the Bully of his power

Fear is not a sign of weakness.  So often it is interpreted that way because it brings with it the shaking lip, akin to beginning to cry, or a flush feeling in the skin, and that gosh awful pit that forms in your stomach and the burning in your throat.  That isn't weakness people, that is pure, bio-fueled strength.

Don't for one second believe that you are weak because you are

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Bullying: Organizing a Counter Effort

Accept What is Happening!

Kids will be kids.  We have heard that line of crap from every level of unaffected, indifferent adult out there.  That statement is absolutely true though.  Kids will be kids.  Bullying will not go away.  It has been with us since Grok clubbed Thorg on the playground.  Dominance is a natural behavior.  ACCEPT IT. 

Accept that some kids are just plain rotten.  Accept that even our own

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New Years Resolution Success: Step 5 Courage.

Cowboy Up! You see it. You own it. You're driven. Your baggage is aligned. Why won't you do it? The last piece of the puzzle is true grit. Stones. Cojones. Step up and do it already! Need help? Dig in. My non-Christian brothers and sisters, please find no offense here, the intent is to inspire. I'll dig as far back as the Read More

New Years Resolution Success: Part 4b Beliefs, anchor or propellant?

Alignment Part II: Beliefs, Anchor or Propellant? I post often about how I BELIEVE that everyone is where there beliefs have allowed them to stop. One thing I see consistently, including from myself, is someone arguing against their own success. I’d lose weight, but I can’t stop eating bread, chocolate, and cheese. I love them soooooo much..... I just finished talking about values in the last post. Read More

New Years Resolution Success: Step 4a Alignment of Values

Alignment PART I of II: Eliminate Pull, Drag, Snags, and Diversions What? Like driving a car with a soft tire, a front end out of alignment, unbalanced tires, your performance can be pulled off the road just like your car. How? Through conflicting values and beliefs. This post will address values. Part II will hit beliefs. Values: Ones principles or standards, what one holds Read More

New Years Resolution Success: Step 3 – Ignite Your Drive

Igniting your Drive: Passion to Succeed Three very simple things I learned from living a dream, and then reading about it from the scientific perspective (Drive: Daniel Pink). Drive, or motivation, is comprised of 3 basic parts. Know them, play to them, and your motor will burn towards your success...even on those “down days”. To put it in perspective for chasing the new years resolution of fitness for me, Read More

New Years Resolution Success: Step 2, Take Responsibility

New Year’s Resolution: Step 2, Take Responsibility! P. R. I. D. E. - Personal Responsibility In Doing Everything. I never got that as a kid. It was a giant acronym painted underneath the BEARS logo and mascot in our gymnasium in high school. It was at all the entrances of our gymnasium as well. How could I have missed such a valuable tool when Read More

New Years Resolution Success: Step 1 – Developing Vision: Be, Do, Have in the New Year

Developing Vision : Be, Do, Have So, today I am hammering away at my Goals, Plans, and Hopes for 2012. I have my brain splattered all over the whiteboard in my office, and I am spending some quiet time creating my VISION of the upcoming year. The unaimed arrow never misses, right? Well, it rarely hits anything that will put food on the table either. So, its range time Read More

Tracking a New Years Resolution: The Mindset Model in Action. The Core of Self Improvement….

Core: Lighting the Fire Wonder why your new years resolutions have failed in the past? I'll tell you why mine have. They lacked the nuclear powered core to carry it through to reality. It doesn't matter what your next New Years Resolution is, or that the ones past have failed. This Blog is headed down that Rabbit Hole, and I am putting my credibility on the line as a Read More