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It's Us. Not the School, Not the Law.
Until there is a core of students dedicated to standing up for the bullied, until a group of parents step up and teach vital skills to those families in need, until the teachers, administrators, and lawyers figure out that "zero tolerance" is hands down the dumbest solution to a problem ever thought up, nothing will ever change.
This is a family problem. We are
Read MoreBullying is not a problem, it is a condition. It's like a floating condition common to all pack animals. Sometimes you're the bully, and sometimes you are bullied. For some the ratio is much more lopsided than others. Some people do the lions share of the bullying, some get to experience it.
Is it fair? No. But hey, life ain't fair. It's the law of nature.
We fight for position, we are
Read MoreForgiveness is one of those words that I think is often used, but not often contemplated for its inherent value. I'd even go so far as to say it is not entirely executed well when granted. I know I have said it, but not done it. Have you?
One of the most destructive forces in our lives is "bad" stress, or distress. The flip side of that coin is "good" stress,
Read MoreBullying Stinks. Is Cyber-bullying worse?
A lot of kids seem to think so. Why? Because Cyber Bullies follow you home, into your room, anywhere you have electronics, they can find you. You don't even have to be there, or see it. They can create a web page with your name and start the process without you even knowing about it.
Look, this is a complex problem, but the solutions are out there.
Lets
Read MoreFear is not a sign of weakness. So often it is interpreted that way because it brings with it the shaking lip, akin to beginning to cry, or a flush feeling in the skin, and that gosh awful pit that forms in your stomach and the burning in your throat. That isn't weakness people, that is pure, bio-fueled strength.
Don't for one second believe that you are weak because you are
Read MoreCowboy Up! You see it. You own it. You're driven. Your baggage is aligned. Why won't you do it? The last piece of the puzzle is true grit. Stones. Cojones. Step up and do it already! Need help? Dig in. My non-Christian brothers and sisters, please find no offense here, the intent is to inspire. I'll dig as far back as the Read More
Alignment Part II: Beliefs, Anchor or Propellant? I post often about how I BELIEVE that everyone is where there beliefs have allowed them to stop. One thing I see consistently, including from myself, is someone arguing against their own success. I’d lose weight, but I can’t stop eating bread, chocolate, and cheese. I love them soooooo much..... I just finished talking about values in the last post. Read More
Alignment PART I of II: Eliminate Pull, Drag, Snags, and Diversions What? Like driving a car with a soft tire, a front end out of alignment, unbalanced tires, your performance can be pulled off the road just like your car. How? Through conflicting values and beliefs. This post will address values. Part II will hit beliefs. Values: Ones principles or standards, what one holds Read More